One of the core concepts of emotional intelligence is that, as leaders, our emotions and moods spread to our team. No matter how skilled we are at "hiding" our true feelings, studies have proven they come out subconsciously through unique language, tone of voice, non-verbals, and other micro-behaviors.
Humans are social creatures. Research has concluded that strong social bonds contribute to a longer life. And most of us work in teams, for teams, and with teams. Yet when it comes to learning, we rarely do it together. We listen to podcasts, read books, attend seminars, and reflect mostly on our own.
I've been learning, practicing, and speaking about emotional intelligence for about 10 years. But it wasn't until six months ago that I finally discovered how best to describe the concept, and the feedback I received only reinforced that discovery.
In recent weeks, many of us created the time for or found ourselves doing some reflecting. We took stock of what we accomplished last year, what we would have done differently, and why. We also probably thought about what we want to accomplish in the new year, and what it's going to take.
As the years go by, I have more conversations about vision, mission, and core values statements (VMV).
I was inspired to write this post after reading an article yesterday by Gallup called "The No. 1 Employee Benefit That No One's Talking About." Here's an excerpt that summarizes the piece:
On Monday morning, Taylor McPartland, our Managing Director in Los Angeles, received the following email from one of the Apprentices in our JuntoLA program.
Our latest cohort of growth-stage companies recently graduated from our Apprenticeship program, a nine-month experience during which they improved their leadership skills, emotional intelligence, decision-making, and team alignment. They did that by attending a variety of individual and team sessions over nine months:
- Leadership Forums
- Leadership & Functional Classes
- Mentor Meetings, and
- Tutoring Roundtables.
Imagine you're invited to someone's home for an evening. You're a special guest, meet everyone in the family (whether two or ten), get a personal tour of the home, have a pleasant dinner with everyone at the table, retreat to the family room for lively conversation, and leave after 4-5 hours.
For the past six months, a common theme I've been discussing is that of value creation and value delivery, what I have learned to be the two core elements of any business.